Free Guide from Being Loved Shouldn't Hurt
Why You Keep
Attracting the Same Partner — Revealed
Discover the subconscious pattern that's been shaping your relationships — and the one shift that breaks the cycle for good.
Why you're drawn to emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners
Why "stable, healthy love" feels boring or confusing
Why you miss someone who wasn't good for you
Why talk therapy hasn't broken the cycle
The subconscious belief running your love life
Free Guide from Being Loved Shouldn't Hurt
Why You Keep
Attracting the Same Partner — Revealed
Discover the subconscious pattern that's been shaping your relationships — and the one shift that breaks the cycle for good.
Why you're drawn to emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners
Why "stable, healthy love" feels boring or confusing
Why you miss someone who wasn't good for you
Why talk therapy hasn't broken the cycle
The subconscious belief running your love life
Do Any Of These Feel Like You?
The
Rescuer
You love deeply, give endlessly, and hope your love will change him.
The
Repeater
You unconsciously recreate what felt "normal" in childhood — even if it hurt.
The
Romanticizer
You fall for his potential instead of who he actually is.
The
Avoider
You crave love but attract unavailable partners because vulnerability feels unsafe.
If even one of these feels familiar…
you're not broken — you're patterned.
Your subconscious is choosing for you.
Let's decode it.
Do Any Of These Feel Like You?
The Rescuer
You love deeply, give endlessly, and
hope your love will change him.
The Repeater
You unconsciously recreate what felt "normal"
in childhood — even if it hurt.
The Romanticizer
You fall for his potential instead
of who he actually is.
The Avoider
You crave love but attract unavailable partners
because vulnerability feels unsafe.
If even one of these feels familiar…
you're not broken — you're patterned.
Your subconscious is choosing for you.
Let's decode it.
Inside This Free Guide, You'll Discover:
The hidden subconscious beliefs shaping your relationships
The emotional programming that draws you toward the wrong partners
Why red flags don't register (and what makes you ignore them)
The 4 toxic relationship patterns — and which one YOU are
The real reason trauma bonds feel like love
Why healing has felt slow
Why "knowing better" hasn't been enough
The one shift that finally breaks the cycle
Most Healing Advice Only Works On The
Surface
This guide works deeper.
You've probably read books, watched videos, journaled, or tried therapy.
But toxic patterns don't live in:
logic
willpower
good intentions
coping skills
They live in your:
subconscious
nervous system
emotional memory
identity
survival programming
Once you understand that... everything changes.
This guide will show you where the pattern lives –
and what's needed to break it for good.
Inside This Free Guide, You'll Discover:
The hidden subconscious beliefs shaping your relationships
The emotional programming that draws you toward the wrong partners
Why red flags don't register (and what makes you ignore them)
The 4 toxic relationship patterns — and which one YOU are
The real reason trauma bonds feel like love
Why healing has felt slow
Why "knowing better" hasn't been enough
The one shift that finally breaks the cycle
Most Healing Advice Only Works On The
Surface
This guide works deeper.
You've probably read books, watched videos, journaled, or tried therapy.
But toxic patterns don't live in:
logic
willpower
good intentions
coping skills
They live in your:
subconscious
nervous system
emotional memory
identity
survival programming
When you understand that...
everything changes.
This guide will show you where the pattern lives –
and what's needed to break it for good.
Meet Your Guide
Stephanie McPhail, MS
Founder of Being Loved Shouldn't Hurt
Relationship Healer | Abuse Recovery Expert | Trauma-Informed Coach
Stephanie has spent over 15 years helping women break the cycle of toxic relationships and rebuild their lives from the inside out.
She and her husband and partner David specialize in:
subconscious repatterning
nervous system healing
trauma bond resolution
identity-level transformation
She's helped thousands of women reclaim their confidence, peace, and self-worth.
Now she's giving you the first step — completely free.
Meet Your Guide
Stephanie McPhail, MS
Founder of Being Loved Shouldn't Hurt
Relationship Healer | Abuse Recovery Expert | Trauma-Informed Coach
Stephanie has spent over 15 years helping women break the cycle of toxic relationships and rebuild their lives from the inside out.
She and her husband and partner David specialize in:
subconscious repatterning
nervous system healing
trauma bond resolution
identity-level transformation
She's helped thousands of women reclaim their confidence, peace, and self-worth.
Now she's giving you the first step — completely free.
What Women Say After Learning Their Pattern
"I finally understand why I keep choosing the same man."
– Sarah M.
"This explained my entire relationship history."
– Jennifer K.
"I felt more seen by this guide than years of therapy."
– Amanda R.
What Women Say After Learning Their Pattern
"I finally understand why I keep choosing the same man."
– Sarah M.
"This explained my entire relationship history."
– Jennifer K.
"I felt more seen by this guide than years of therapy."
– Amanda R.
Break The Cycle – Starting Today
The pattern starts to end the moment you understand it
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Break The Cycle – Starting Today
The pattern starts to end the moment you understand it
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